Confused...?

I've become so confused by what people consider rational. The people of California voted and once again stated as a whole that they want to keep marriage between a man and a woman. As I understand it, this is the second time this amend mended has been passed by the people. Now I realized that the losing side of something like this would like to blame some one or something. I just find that the way in which some have chosen to respond seems to be the exact opposite of the treatment they themselves are seeking. The right some feel that gays have to be 'married' rather than have 'civil unions', an issue I take to be somewhat moronic to start with, is based on the idea of tolerance and the seeking of acceptance and equality. The assaults on the properties of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints because of the supposedly pivotal role they played in the passing of Prop 8 in California is ludicrous.

With a consideration of the facts, one will see clearly that the while yes the church was involved in the fight to pass the proposition it was on a scale smaller than say the Catholic church for example. There were many organizations behind the bid to pass the proposition and the LDS church played a relatively smaller part. According to the official letter from the church to its member in California, the members were asked to contribute to the coalition with their means and time.
(We ask that you do all you can to support the proposed constitutional amendment by donating of your means and time to assure that marriage in California is legally defined as being between a man and a woman. Our best efforts are required to preserve the sacred institution of marriage.)
No were in the letter did the church say that terrorism is an appropriate method of making our point or getting the prop. passed. Today it seems almost appropriate that if you loose you just get violent... wait that sounds a lot like the mob from the 20's and 30's, didn't we get past that?

Additionally, it seems odd that in the rational mind someone would connect revenge against only one of the churches/groups behind their loss. How about extending that to violent revenge against a singled out group... isn't that what the gay population was/is complaining about?

Finally, what happened to democracy? One side always looses an election or an important proposition. I have to say that I lost this past November 4th. The Presidential Election went the opposite way I had wished it to go and I strongly feel that Obama is the wrong choice for this nation. Regardless of that fact he will be known as President Obama for the next four years and all the violence and terrorism in the world won't be successful in changing that.

Why do people think violence, or anything, will change a religious belief?